|Everything and Nothing|
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Lately I have begun to notice a trend. A trend in society that seems to be constant from year to year and has maintained its nasty path for the past 18 months. I have been single now for almost that same amount of time and what I have noticed is that couples seem to form and “find one another” in the months of November/December – which evidently is just before end of year holidays for most people – and then mid year, roughly between the months of April/May – conveniently before the weather turns to sh*t.
In my opinion, there are various motivators for this shift in the single population. In the case of the end of year longing syndrome, the need to have someone by your side for the December/Holiday Period/I-want-to-have-comfort-sex-on-New-Years time is exactly that…the need to just “have someone” there, to talk to, to touch, to be touched by seems to be a massive motivator for people to really make a concerted effort to land a “catch” (as temporary as it may be), but a catch never-the-less. It seems as though while making this kind of an effort one can seemingly make a respectable find…a “potential” so-to-speak, but the truth of the matter is, anyone who – during this time of courtship – is willing to step into a relationship knows that they themselves are just seeking that holiday fling (hate that word) vibe or know that the other person is looking for exactly that…either way, the union is doomed to failed…! One would even go as far as to say that if a couple does manage to make it past the December cuddles and huddles and does attempt to make something of the “magic” they experienced over the holiday period…it is still doomed to fail – even if the end comes to fruition in 6 – 10 months…the end result is the same and thus proves the theory.
In the case of the mid year need for affection, as the Summer days slowly fade and the days become shorter and short…waking up alone in the dark seems to be pretty low on peoples preference lists…so what would be the logical solution…yup, you guessed it, latch onto a mate and ride out the Winter as you collect your acorns and nuts for the Wintery chill ahead. It makes perfect sense, who wouldn’t want someone to cuddle with on the couch, have them make you tea and coffee and lie in with on the lazy weekends…? Keeping in mind that these are not the only activities that will be done in the midst of the cold weather coming through this year…! Exactly, there is not a single human being who does not find the previous statements at least a little attractive. I know I do.
It’s human nature to want to be touched unless you have been put through massive abuse early on in life and now you shy aware from physical affection, but for the most part, human are by nature, a tactile species. Humans are drawn to one another and there is nothing more satisfying that having affection returned to you by someone who you have either a physical and or emotional connection with…! And ladies, don’t give me that story that chocolate and a pair of Jimmy Choo’s is all you need…because it’s bullsh*t…everyone needs someone, now for what ever that reason is, is entirely up to them and how they use that time is also in their hands.
This “trend” seems to dance around the same people, transitional time after transitional time, they are the select few who always manage to land a “goodie” for the time period in which they need the “sustenance” to make it through the “tough” time ahead…I mean really…regardless of that, these pro’s seem to have mastered the art of the “Time Lapse Hookup” because I have been single 18 months and have yet to find a Holiday-Hold-Me-Down-And-Ravage-Me and I consider myself at least a generalized 6/10 catch…at worst…! What I really don’t understand is the reputation that proceeds these particular
individuals…and why others enter in to these “limited-engagements” when they know all too well that there is no light at the end of the tail for themselves and for the relationships they form…there is only nothingness, a simple and short snuff of the candle light.
I think that I feel sorry for them individuals involved more than anything, because like in all other arrangements that involved dual commitment, there is always one who is more invested in their “pseudo relationship” than the other which inevitably leads to hurt, real hurt – you know, the kind that feels like someone is hurting you – because even though that person knows deep down inside that this is probably just a “holiday-hanky-pank”, they still commit and that commitment leads to a great amount of pain when things eventually fizzle out or the “pro” gets bored and moves on because now it’s “April/May Intake” or “End-of-Year-Yield” …I’m sure that the obvious does not need to be spelt out…heartbreak is pretty self-explanatory!
Personally I’m not a fan of stating the obvious, but just so that we are all on the same page here…we are in one of those…”transitional times”, so be on-guard for those looking to take advantage of your human desire to be tactile…love is not always about taking a chance, leaping and all that other bullsh*t they teach you in the movies…open your eyes and be slightly more strategic with who you choose to get cuddly with this Winter…
Love and Cuddles
Cold to the touch